Meet Jen

Meet Jen

“I don’t know how to buy a bathing suit,” Jen said, exasperated.

“As a kid I wore my sisters’ hand-me downs. Then I stopped going to the beach because I felt too fat to wear a bathing suit in public.”

“Those miserable ‘fat feelings’ stayed with me until I stopped struggling against myself.”

“Now that I’ve learned how-to-be-nice-to-me skills, I’m not going to waste another moment wishing I were 20 years old or a size 2. It feels really good to say that. But still, I’m 44 years old and I’ve never bought a bathing suit for myself!”

“Anyway, I’ve been studying the bathing suits at Lands’ End. The catalogue suggests suits for different body types– are you familiar with their types? I can’t decide if my body is a circle or a square. None of the models look like circles or squares, and they damn sure don’t look like me!”

“I can’t decide if my body is a circle or a square. None of the models look like circles or squares, and they damn sure don’t look like me!”

“I’m so confused. Do you think you can teach this ol’girl some new shopping tricks?” asked Jen.

“Most definitely!” I replied, finally getting a word in. “But, for the record, the only thing that’s old is your way of thinking, and, um, maybe your jeans…”

“My jeans are ancient!” Jen laughed. “My girls constantly make fun of my hideous mom-jeans. After we conquer the bathing suit, let’s update all my clothes. I want some jeans that scream ‘I’m one hot mamma!'”

I replied, “Once you learn your body shape and a few things about clothing- fit you’ll rock bathing suits, jeans and everything else.”

Jen lives in Nashville, so we worked together over Skype. Step one was introducing Jen to her true shape and body proportions. One of her daughters traced around her body on a long piece of paper. Using the drawing, I pointed out that Jen has a long torso so her height is in the top half of her body. Her shoulders are wider than her hips so Jen she is neither circle nor square but an inverted triangle, which is the easiest shape to fit at every clothing size. We noted her three physical assets that we will always want to highlight: her shoulders, shapely arms and décolleté.

“I’m absolutely amazed– it’s as if I’m looking at my body for the first time,” Jen exclaimed.

“I’m absolutely amazed– it’s as if I’m looking at my body for the first time,” Jen exclaimed.

“You’re seeing yourself with new eyes…” I said, “Ain’t it grand?!”

I picked out some bathing suit options for Jen online and she ordered her favorites. When they arrived, Jen tried them on for her daughters and they all squealed with delight. Jen loved how she looked in all of them.

We scheduled her “Ta Da!” time with me in our virtual Skype dressing room. She tried on her favorites and I helped her make the final pick: the one-piece halter that flattered her broad shoulders drawing the eye to her top half and a high-cut thigh on bottom that visually elongated her legs. The turquoise color made Jen’s eyes sparkle.

“Look at that beach body!” I said as Jen whooped.

A few weeks later Jen told me that she’d strutted her new bathing suit up and down the beach, and she was now ready to tackle her closet.

Again via Skype, she tried on her own clothes as I gave her tips on what to ditch, what to keep and why. She quickly ditched her “low self-esteem outfits” as Julia Cameron calls them and her mom-jeans. Out with the old and in with the new! It was time to shop.

Buying clothes for herself was new to Jen so she wanted to build her wardrobe slowly. She preferred online shopping and trusted me to steer her in the right direction, so we created a Pinterest style-board where I ‘pinned’ my clothing recommendations from online retailers and she bought the items at her own pace.

Slowly but surely, Jen’s new wardrobe was completed and include some “hot momma” jeans, a few versatile tops and jackets and a pair of “I’m anything but old” boots.  She also owned a new fashion savvy and body awareness to guide her future wardrobe selection as well as a sassy attitude that inspires her daughters.

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