Meet Kristen and Meg

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Meet Kristen and Meg

“Meg and I have been friends for as long as I can remember,” Kristen told me in her phone introduction.

“We were inseparable as kids, and even though I was short and chubby and went to Catholic School and Meg was tall and skinny and went to public school we spent every waking moment together outside of school. We even went to summer camp together. I remember skinny Meg wearing a baggy one-piece bathing suit at camp just so I wouldn’t feel bad about the bathing suit my mother made to cover my body.”

She laughed, remembering the bathing suit, “It was hideous! I cried a lot as a child. Kids teased me about my weight, my short chubby legs, my big belly and my home-made clothes. Meg is as tough as nails and stood up for me. I was always on a diet but people pushed food on skinny ol’ Meg. I’ve been chubby my whole life and Meg stayed skinny until her pregnancies and divorce. We both wear hideous one-piece suits now!”

“There is no one left to blame for our weight problem. Ugh! We used to blame the kids- does that make us bad mothers?” she kidded. “But they’ve all flown the nest so we can’t blame them or our hectic mom-schedules, anymore.”

We’ve tried a bunch of diets. We both did well with Weight Watchers online since they actually like food, but neither of us kept the weight off.

“We’ve tried a bunch of diets. We both did well with Weight Watchers online since they actually like food, but neither of us kept the weight off. A few weeks ago I read Intuitive Eating and a light bulb went on so I gave it to Meg to read. We’re intrigued and want to give it a try. But, knowing us, if we don’t get someone to coach us- or goad us- into applying it, it will end up as just another book on the shelf.”

“I love the story of your friendship,” I said. “It will serve you well in this process. But even though you and Meg are rockin’ the same bathing suit now, your beginnings are different and so are you middles and ends. On this journey we will honor your individuality as well as your friendship.”

In our work together, Kristen and Meg learned to identify and honor their hunger for more than just food. Their shared histories provided a perspective that made the unraveling rich- and there was story telling and laughter galore!

Their shared histories provided a perspective that made the unraveling rich- and there was story telling and laughter galore!

Since both women were comfortable in the kitchen, they quickly learned to only ‘eat what they love and love what they eat’. The emotional work was harder and slower though. Learning to define and set boundaries was key to Kristen’s transformation, while learning to ask for help was key to Meg’s.

Meg had to learn “to put her dukes down” and see vulnerability as strength. She also learned that she could ask for help and “not die.” When she decided to take off her Wonder Woman cape and let others defend themselves she remarked, “I feel 100 pounds lighter!”

Kristen worked through her childhood hurt and discovered an inner powerhouse that likes the challenge of running 10K races, much to her family’s surprise. “Look at what these short legs can do!” she exclaimed with glee.

Together they learned to unburden their inner taskmasters, care takers and people pleasers. While eating S’mores lakeside, they tapped into their long forgotten childhood dreams and they’re now talking about opening a seasonal B&B where they plan to boldly rock two-piece bathing suits.

Do you have a thick and thin friendship like Kristen and Meg? If so, let’s schedule a free, no-strings attached, 20 minute phone chat to see if we’re a good match for one-to-one psychology of weight coaching for you and your friend.